Side Effects of LOVE

Apparently from so many years Bollywood and Hollywood and other so many local woods movies has disgraced the meaning of Pyar(Love),

on the name of love they offers us sensuality, and awaken our passionate desires. Scriptures like Chaitanya Charitamrita gives us the real meaning of love, it says, "The desire to gratify one's own senses is kāma [lust], but the desire to please the senses of Lord Kṛṣṇa is prema [love]", from above quotation we understand that so called love in today's world is simply lust(exploitative tendency) but packaged as love. Many times I wonder why they say, " I love you", they should say, " I lust you",  because their intention is not love(serve) but lust(exploitation), After getting bombarded with such movies one starts searching for person who will satisfy his sensual desires on the name of love, but this so called love keeps the heart burning and never gets satisfied by any amount of sensual pleasures provided. One can remain away from this lust when one understand its consequences, just like when one understand nature and effects of poison he keeps himself away from it. Krsna in Gita calls lust as eternal enemy of soul.

When one falls in so called love (lust), one goes through following 5 side effects as explained by our scriptures very well,

1) Mohan (infatuation)- this is primary stage, which causes one to get fascinated by form of opposite sex. Its said that first glance is innocence second deliberate and third is prey.

2) Stambhana ( stunned) - one forgets everything and focus on that person.

3) Unmadana (becomes mad)- one becomes intoxicated by activities and form of opposite sex and one goes mad many times.

4) Shoshan - one's whole energy is sucked in thought of lover due to intense attraction.

5) Tapan (burning) - and due to unfulfilled expectations heart burns.

Last and the worst is Maran( death) - one kills oneself and the lover when there is denial in reciprocation from lover and unfulfillment of desires, we have seen so many examples of people killing themselves and their lover or attacking lover.

So let's examine ourselves that if at all we are in lust, at what stage we are now ? And how to avoid the progressive stages, so that we can cultivate pure love for God and His children and remain away from side effects of lust.